Happiness

Happiness

I have been upset

For sometime now

Because of the way people act

Because of the manipulations happening around

Because of the gap between my desires and their fulfillment

And then a wise man told me today

To look at the bigger picture

To recognize what matters and what doesn’t

To understand if my happiness is a function of all these things or

All these things are a function of my happiness

And I understood!

Jan 15, 2015

Fearlessness and Happiness

How to be happy? People say you should learn to be happy all the time. Those u r unhappy with, why are u unhappy with them? Because u have expectations from them which they are not fulfilling. They are either below expectation which gives u a reason to crib. They could be beyond expectations which will give u a reason to be jealous of. If they meet your expectation then its to your advantage; comfortable situation. But is even that happiness?

This also sounds like there cant be a perfect situation. And that is true. When your happiness depends on others, there can never be a perfect situation.

This seems to be quite deep! Happiness is not being in a comfortable situation. Happiness is when you are able to explore your full potential with complete honesty. When you can with full purity express yourself. When there is nothing to hide and nothing to show off. When you are just as you are. But it wont be an easy goal. Because we are fearful! We are afraid of people trying to take advantage of this honesty. We are afraid of losing this freedom and innocence.

But fearful people cant be happy. We have to be fearless. Fearless towards ourselves. Fearless in accepting our self as we are and this will lead to more and more freedom and happiness!

What is perfection?

Perfection can’t be relative. It’s an absolute term. It’s whole and complete in itself. There is no competition and no comparison. When the inspiration comes from deep within your heart and is nurtured with love, the result automatically becomes perfect!

Dated: May 31, 2013

Let love govern your being

Read this quote yesterday –
“It doesn’t matter how much you do, how much you know or how much you have. What matters is how well you love.”
I felt deeply touched by it. Isn’t it so true! What are our lives governed by? I have to do this. I have to build a house. I need to get a promotion this year. I need to work hard. I have to know this. I have to read this book. I have to become knowledgeable. Is it all not revolving around achieving or accomplishing something. And this race has made us so mechanical. We work hard, we get promotions, we get nice salaries and still feel something is missing. None of this is giving us happiness. And then, we aim for a bigger goal, bigger house, bigger salary, bigger car and achieve it and still not feel happy!
What makes us happy? What is it that gives us inner happiness. Isn’t it love? We feel touched by the smallest act of kindness that somebody does towards us selflessly. Love is the most beautiful thing in this world. When you make the other person happy and touch his heart without expecting anything in return – that is love. Rest all is barter system. Love is selfless. If it gives me happiness to see you happy, that is love! Let this selfless love govern your life. Start thinking in terms of people rather than objects. Try to extend this love towards everyone. You need not be in a relationship to love someone. Always think and care about the people you come in touch with. How can they grow. What is it that would bring happiness, contentment in their lives. Try to make a difference. and this will complete you!

Being Right

Being right. How important is it? As a child, you only listen to your heart. There is no consideration of right and wrong. The two of you love each other and you wanna kiss each other, u go ahead and do it. Are there any regrets about your first kiss? They are in your memories forever! You held somebody’s hand. Are there any regrets? No! You don’t have any regrets in your heart about whatever you have done. But society has created its own rules. You don’t know how to answer that society. They may start blaming you. They may say you are characterless. They may say you are the one who was after it. It was only your mistake. And then, your life is full of consideration for what others think. It is full of fear. You stop living your own life. You start finding happiness when people are happy with you. Isn’t it all fake? When we do something which brings joy, without hurting anyone else, should it all not be good? The person may however propagate it. You do put your respect at stake. It is all so risky. Love is so risky. It can betray you anytime. But isn’t it the only trustworthy thing in this world? We are human beings. To err is human. And we are not even sure what erring is! We are bound by the rules of the society. It is natural and acceptable to do what comes naturally. Trying to control our nature may lead to further complications. Isnt it all about being natural, being open? Is freedom not about being able to think, speak and act freely. And when that freedom starts being a part of us, we start blooming, we start being one with the nature. It needs courage. Being free doesn’t even mean to go to the other extreme. It just means that you be as you are.

Dated Dec 21, 2011

Distance

You can be close only when there is a distance. To see the beauty in a flower, it has to be seen from a distance. If you come too close, u wont be able to see anything. It will be dark. You wont see any beauty. You may even damage the flower. One needs space and distance to see the truth. I am myself. I need my own soil, air, space, sunlight to grow. If you give me too much of these, I may not sustain. If it is too less, even then its a problem. I just need my optimum space to grow and as I grow I start sharing my fragrance and my beauty and start finding happiness in that. And when you gain pleasure from that beauty and admire the fragrance, we come close. You become a part of my being!

Dated : March 2, 2011

Art

We strive for perfection and anything even nearing perfection gives us immense happiness. That complete, perfect state is our true nature. Art is a beautiful way to express that perfection or that desire for perfection which may not be easily attainable in the outside world or material world. It has a soothing element which not only brings immense peace and joy to the one performing but also to the audience/viewers. The purity that we strive to achieve is attainable through art. It is something directly related to Heart and God.

Art is where the HeART is! :)

Dated: Mar 1, 2011